Who I AM!

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It’s Valentines day! for some no big deal for others its nice…for me… I don’t need to be showered with gifts but Its nice to maybe get recognition..which I actually did. In two different ways… so really I shouldn’t feel so down. BUT I do because I’m JUST dating, and today im ALONE and yes it SUCKS!!!!

Bottom line I am all alone today its early maybe something will come up, but I wont dwell. I’ve taken my happy meds and instead of coffee this morning I’m on my second cup of hot cocoa!! Because apparently that’s how I roll… I am learning there are NO RULES when it comes to our own happiness..Take care of you. which brings me to the topic I wanted to write about.

Many have told me, going through a divorce, now that your on your own you have to find you ..what does Robin like, ..I’ll tell you what I like NOT BEING ALONE!!! I am 49 years old trust me people..I know who I am..The best part about me is NO ONE ever took my self esteem away..not ex boyfriends who tried and not my Ex husband who constantly tried to make me feel helpless and dumb..he NEVER built me up or let me do things on my own and when i did and it came out great he would say… “You did this?”  like he was shocked i was capable of doing anything…oh but if i failed at something holy shit he was like a dog with a bone …years later i would still hear about it…This is when I started to hate him, I also know I DID NOTHING WRONG!  basically I found the feelings were mutual. But here’s the thing..My Ex NEVER stripped me of who I am… THIS IS WHO I AM;

I have a BIG Heart! I have a BIG and funny animated personality. I have Confidence. I respect myself , I take no bullshit and hate drama. I can dance, I can sing. I know my laughter is contagious. I can cook. I am honest I would never cheat or lie, I would never purposefully hurt anyone. I LOVE animals . I am someone who would have your back. Take you into my house and make you feel relaxed. I am warm and affectionate. Most people I meet take to me instantly,  I have written two pretty great books! I refuse to grow up all the way! I Have Class but I can adapt to any social situation. I have serious side but can find the humor in anything. And when I love someone you will get the best parts me mind, body and soul…

The last few years of my broken marriage I used to say to my friends…”I am So being wasted on this idiot, he does not appreciate the fabulous woman that I am!” In some ways i felt like my Ex was jealous of me because I have a lot of strong qualities and he didn’t… his people skills SUCKED! it made me crazy… I see now we had friends because of me… So STOP telling me I need to find out who i am, and don’t apologize for and tell me your sorry my husband walked out on me…Truly HE is the one who’s going to be sorry and I believe HE is the one who better work on himself or he will be alone FOREVER no sane woman will put up with his idiosyncrasy!

so yes, right now I am alone, a little sad, maybe I even feel sorry for myself..BUT I know who I am!! and some day I will have someone who is going to  be so happy and feel so lucky they have me. I hope its sooner then later..

If your going through or been through a divorce, I know so many that have feel its their fault or now you feel your not good or worthy… its not true.. but there is nothing wrong with seeking therapy, talk to someone. My therapist told me because my Ex or anyone can’t take away my self esteem this is where I am my strongest and she is thrilled I NEVER lost that! Its half the battle.. I just need to work on my fears, but its all apart of the grieving… We say “Try”…i’m trying to work on it, I try to see the light at the end of the tunnel… The word TRY is word we use that means bullshit… my heart says believe .. I AM going to be fine I AM going to be happy . one step one breathe one day at a time.

My muse today is siting on the couch she smiled at me this morning. She’s happy that even though I am not writing in my manuscript I am writing this blog. in her eyes right now any writing is  a step in the right direction. I gave her my middle finger.. and she gave it back and laughed…she reminded me of who I am..and I know i’m pretty fabulous!

DREAM~ WISH~BELIEVE

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Love, Adventure and a 200 year old spirit … The unfamiliar world Of the Paranormal… It all begins with One Sip… Get A Taste Of

ABSINTHE

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My Muse is in a fog!

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Going through a life changing event, I am learning, changes you.

I feel bitter, sad, lonely! When I am happy its not yet to full capacity . Now I have started a new book, I want to write I really do but my muse is looking at me from across the room arms folded shaking her head… then she shrugs and takes a deep breath, I take one with her. some days she does poke through the hazy fog in my head with ideas, just hints of hope that she is there waiting for me.

Everyday I sit and see if I can write….right now, the only thing I seem to be able to write is on this blog about what is going on in my life…I know there are others out there and it does help to share and talk about it.

Now the book I started writing  is about three friends who decide to do on line dating and its going to get hairy, funny and real! How ironic is this… because now that’s what i’m doing, and finding it very hard… you would think in the age group i’m in, dating would or should be easier…but its not..most guys are out for one thing..And i’m just not that girl.  I feel like a little lamb and been thrown to a pack of wolves! THAT’S when reality stands up and smacks you across your face.  But i’m now trying to look at this as learning experience…and I am getting lots of material for the new book! putting myself out there is fun but also scary.

Here’s the thing maybe I need this time to spread my wings collect info live a little then my muse will step out of the fog and say… GO GIRL lets write this story. Inspiration I found comes from everywhere, and in time I believe things are yet to come that I will get idea’s from.  I know my muse is here, she’s just in the fog,  I’m not waiting for her I believe she is waiting for me!

Dream~Wish~ Believe~

 

Take a magical, emotional journey with Sal & Gracie as they discover they have been in love for centuries…In… A SOUL MATES PROMISE~ http://www.amazon.com/Soul-Mates-Promise-Robin-Soprano-ebook/dp/B00O242G8O/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1436450984&sr=1-1&keywords=a+soul+mates+promise

This book has it all… A little mystery, a little magic and a spice of Sex & Romance.

Love, Adventure and a 200 year old spirit … The unfamiliar world Of the Paranormal… It all begins with One Sip… Get A Taste Of

ABSINTHE

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The Ups & Downs of my new life.

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So what does one do while going through divorce?

you try to keep busy, PRAY FOR PEACE , tell yourself over and over your going to be fine weather you believe it or not!… When i’m home for some reason I get very down. Even though I might of had a great weekend or a great day.. it seems after the high I can get very low.. I met a few men, some scary some very nice, one in particular I am getting feelings for. (oh no) Yes… I know! uuuhhhgg….its a gamble i’m willing to take..it could turn out great, or he will break my heart. that’s the way goes though right?!

Dating at this age is different and I may be a little impatient, its dating, not going steady from the jump, its getting to know each other and that is great but as usual I over think stuff . does he really like me? why didn’t he call/text? and then he does and I think okay…this is dating…no thinking negative OR as the therapist calls it..”Stinkin thinkin”…but its hard to do especially when you haven’t had to do it in 20 years!  My therapist tells me the highs and lows are normal but its our own thinking in the negative that make us low…its just easier for some of us to do that.

I am also thinking I need to get busy on the book I started a few months ago… I think about how proud I get when I write and I do it for me.  I amaze myself that I have done this twice! Still can’t believe it. This is an up!

The down is not having a loved one, other then friends and family, to share that joy with you.

Another up is working, being around people all day laughing, talking, sharing advice…the down…I come home to an empty house and I know no one is coming home for dinner or to sleep beside me. Then you go back to wondering is that guy I like going to text or call me …at least that’s and up..right? and you cling to that hope…when it does not happen your stomach sinks further into bummed out… but when it does.. you get excited and you find a smile on your face.  See its an emotional roller coaster… one ride I hope I can stop soon!

Also I love to cook or bake..that’s an up..yes?! But when its just you its a downer…I’m not making a huge meal for just me.

lately my dinner consist of a glass of wine, some crackers and cheese… unless I go out with friends which is an up!

I look forward to going to my  writers group..this is an up! but the rest of my day is usually followed  by a lawyer’s appointment …or just going home..and I stare at my life of 24 years in boxes. OR I stare at  the manuscript on my computer  and get pissed off that I cant focus on writing a fucking word!…This is a down…….

 

Look.. I know things could be way worse, I have my health…(I hope) lol! I have wonderful friends, they are nurturing, caring, even over protective and I thank god for them everyday..I have some family who check in on me regularly… these are all positive ups! I have a big heart I am a great person, this I know, and knowing this keeps me for the most part in a positive. I have confidence and pretty good self esteem, I love to have fun and laugh, dance, sing, talk, go out stay in ! UP UP UP right???!!! Sadly..it does not last.

I am a work in progress I try to live everyday and do things to make me happy …I don’t need to be rich, I don’t need fancy things.. I just want to be Happy.  one day at a time..

 

DREAM~WISH~BELIEVE~

 

 

New Life New chapter

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Usually my blog is about my writing , my books. But months ago my world turned upside down, after 24 years of marriage he walked out. Truly I knew something was wrong i wasn’t happy either, but thought we could work on things. He didn’t want to and wanted out. Abruptly I was alone, still am. I moved to a new home and my future is up in the air and uncertain.  Shock. Depression. Anger. loss. is too much of an emotional roller coaster. Most of my friends say I should escape into my writing.. I would love nothing more but can’t seem to focus to much. so I thought if I blogged about it maybe others going through this can take comfort that we are not crazy! Everyone has their own time to heal, some told me to just get on with my life…(REALLY) How much does that piss you off.. or be a grown ass woman and get more pissed… SERIOUSLY?! if i had the ability to have these super powers don’t you think i’d do it! Also I am not 20 something… im 49.. scared for my financial future and scared of never finding love again…Some say why do you need a man to be happy? my answer is… I guess its way I’m made… And why should I change, i think that is one of my best qualities, That I have to give.. also through this I don’t believe I have done anything wrong, I was there I asked him to let us go to counseling, he blew me off, several times.  The good things I never lost.. I like/love myself,I know I’m fun and have a big heart.  That’s a plus.

Now, Dipping my toes into dating pool… not happy… its head games… I don’t know how to play NOR do I want to. Why can’t guys just be honest whats with the come on strong then pull away crap.. are they scared? or are they just assholes?

Meanwhile this adds to your depression and fear.  I am also trying to get used to being alone..I HATE IT!!!! Some days I really feel this is going to drive me into the loony bin with rubber walls! I never had kids, so im not occupied with that, some have said that is a good a thing, I’m not so sure,they would give me reason and purpose to do more, they would distract me in ways of they need me and my house would not be so friggin quiet!

which brings me to my next feelings…NO PURPOSE… I have no idea why I feel this way, but I do. and it comes full circle of why I can’t write, why I cant read, why I can barley watch a TV show or need meds to go to sleep, need meds to get through my day …Driving through my town life is going on and mine feels dead. I see places and things ive been with my husband and i get sick to my stomach.

Every one I know tells me im strong…well WHERE THE FUCK IS IT?! I concentrate on breathing Daily…The one good thing out of all this… I lost weight, so when I find the strength to go out I at least feel confident. That may be my super power…I am strong in the fact i have confidence and like i said i do like myself i know i am a good person with love in my heart.

I know i am not the the only woman to go through this but its MY life thats falling apart and Right now i see no light of hope.

I Know many of you out there are going through this, or maybe you have lost a loved by a death. Its kind of similar…its a process and we all have our own time to do it and if I want to feel sorry for my self on some days then god dammit i’m gonna!

and no one can tell us any different.

one day i hope and pray i can look back and shake my head and say wow i made it and I’m doing great…TODAY is not the day, and neither is tomorrow!

In my own time..in my own way.. thats the best I can do…

 

If you like to share you story please reach out to me. I have found it helps to talk.

in the mean time………..

DREAM, WISH, BELIEVE*

This book has it all… A little mystery, a little magic and a spice of Sex & Romance.

Love, Adventure and a 200 year old spirit … The unfamiliar world Of the Paranormal… It all begins with One Sip… Get A Taste Of

ABSINTHE

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Learning to trust myself, My writing and My confidence!

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Hi all!  I am getting ready to send my manuscript to the editor,  Absinthe will get polished up and I will get it out as soon as I think it’s ready! in the meantime…. for those of us who write and know this process it puts us in a state of limbo.. this is the time I like to read other books, and take notes on idea’s that roll around in my head. Also I have to write a summery for Absinthe. This is the hardest part..Don’t ask me why…I find it so challenging. I can write a whole book but ask me to describe it in a  paragraph totally puts me in a block!?  So things I have learned and continue to learn everyday..just need to listen to this advice..right?

Don’t compare your work to others especially to a best selling Author. I am positive their first draft wasn’t perfect, and I have no doubts it went through numerous re-writes and suggestions from editor and beta readers.

Every writer is unique, all of us have different strengths and weakness’s. keep learning and build up your weak spots, you may even find a hidden talent in your writing you didn’t know you had.

Set Realistic goals. Some say write everyday no matter what. If you can’t that’s okay too. I wrote two books now, and I do NOT write everyday. Creativity ebbs and flows, highs and lows. Pick a formula of writing that works for you. you may be a night time writer or weekend writer.  I myself let the story sit sometimes for a day or two, this had helped me in so many ways. I get a thought but just leave it, as time passes my story rolls around in my head, the characters are moving, talking, then BOOM I get a better idea and I am on fire writing for the whole day!

Don’t listen to your inner critic. you know who I mean. One of the voices in our head who tells us..that sucked..you can’t write.. people will laugh at you. Fire him/her..ignore that evil voice. Its hard enough to write and create without bashing ourselves over head… Shut it out!

Lastly.. if your just not feeling it on a particular day, and you keep deleting what you wrote, or you think you are blocked, just walk away from it, come back tomorrow or go for a walk. Go to a movie. Don’t force it.. It will come back. I don’t  say I’m blocked because it feels more as if my brain wrote so much it’s swollen with words and phrases…like I need to re-boot my head. So I do the Walk Away... it very much works and does the trick.

Lastly… Keep Writing!! Write when that mood hits, read when it doesn’t.  *Find a class or a writer’s group and TALK about writing. This I can’t tell you enough how important to me this has been.

Talk with you all soon friends. I have some work to do to get Absinthe ready for you.

Dream ~ Wish ~ Believe

One Sip of Absinthe.

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Hello everyone! almost finished with my second novel. This story was fun to write. I dabbled more into magic and the paranormal all the while trying to keep it real. how about a taste of some Absinthe……….

Bash and I stand there silent, mesmerized. In the dark we shine the glow of the flashlights on Brandy. She is almost zombie like in her movements and her back is to us. Kneeling on the ground again she bends, puts her ear to the wet dewy grass. Minutes pass, the wind still bellows, Brandy stands and turns toward us. Her eyes clouded over. I gasp and drop the flashlight. Bash pulls me into his arms as we keep watching.

” Very reminiscent of the night I found you like this.”

His statement makes me nauseous, making me want to hold him tighter so I do. The gusts of wind all at once stop. Brandy falls to the ground like a rag doll. We run over to help her.

“She’s knocked out!” Bash exclaims. He holds her across his lap.

“Brandy!” I yell her name tapping her lightly on her cheek.  “Brandy can you hear me?” I grab the water bottle she had, putting some on my hand I spritz her face with it.

Bash nods at me. “She’s coming around.”

Brandy’s eyes open and they are the normal hazel I remember. “Brandy are you okay? You past out. What was happening?”

She sits up and I hand her the water “Thanks” She says on an intake of air. She takes a few more deep breaths and sips more water. “I did an invocation calling. I had a feeling she was buried here, so I took the berries and offered my blood. I diluted it with water so I could see just enough. Prudence came to me. She is definitely here, you were right Sharie she needs help. Like I told you she is at un-rest. Her request is small. Move her near her family.

“But how? Move her…move her where.?” My voice pitches.

“I know where” Bash spoke calmer, his eyes and thoughts some where else….

HAA!  Stay tuned!!!  And find out what happens in my up coming novel ABSINTHE….A Mystery…A Romance…A 200 year old spirit….all because of one sip from a mystical green elixir…

YOUR EYES

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Annette's Poetry

YOUR EYES ARE LIKE WINDOWS TO YOUR HEART.

THEY SHINE SO BRIGHT AND ARE SO BLUE.  I CAN’T HELP BUT

SEE RIGHT THROUGH, INSIDE YOU…

YOUR EYES ON THE OUTSIDE ARE LAUGHING AND SMILING,

AS YOU ARE CRYING ON THE INSIDE.

THEY LIVE AND LIE EACH DAY, AS YOUR HEART SLOWLY DIES

AND CONTINUES TO FADE AWAY.

YOUR EYES ARE LIKE WINDOWS TO YOUR HEART.

FOR SOMETIMES, WHEN I LOOK AT YOU I CAN SEE YOU THERE, BEING TORN APART

LIKE SHATTERED GLASS FROM A BROKEN WINDOW PANE…

IF THERE IS ANYTHING I CAN DO TO HELP EASE THE PAIN YOU ARE FEELING

JUST LET ME KNOW.  BECAUSE YOU SEE, IT HAS CHANGED THOSE BEAUTIFUL BABY BLUES

I ONCE KNEW TO WHAT IS NOW A CLOUDY SHADE OF GREY.

SO LATELY, WHEN I GAZE INTO THE WINDOWS OF YOUR HEART,  ALL I CAN SEE IS

RAIN FALLING ON THE WINDOW…

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